The main purpose of the midlife crisis is not to buy a red sports car and have an affair, but to help
us integrate our repressed parts and become whole. If we do our inner work at midlife crisis, we
can look forward to entering our wisdom years at age 50.
Our midlife crisis is determined by the placement of the planet Uranus. When Uranus is situated opposite of where it was at your time of birth, it triggers a mid life crisis. This usually happens between the ages of 38 – 42, for those of us born in the 1940’s – 1970’s and between the ages of 43-45
for those born in the 1980’s – the present.
The planet Uranus has the effect of opening the doors to our unconscious thereby causing us to experience what we have rejected in ourselves.
As a result we may experience discomfort and confusion. After all, if these parts of ourselves were deemed by us to be ok, we would not have repressed them in the first place!
For many of us, what we have repressed has to do with our sexuality. So often, during midlife crisis, we
feel much more sexual than normal. If we are married or in a faithful partnership, this can impact our relationship.
Because we usually marry people with similar levels of sexual energy, a change or surge in our level of sexuality can trigger dissatisfaction with our spouse. We may lose our attraction to them and seek relationships outside the marriage.
It is important to realize that our sexual energy tends to return to our normal level once we are out of
midlife crisis. Thus it is important not to make any drastic changes during this time, but to keep our sense of humor and use this time as an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.
Realizing we are in midlife crisis is important because this is the ideal and only time when the doors of
our unconscious are wide open. This allows us to do tremendous healing, inner work and growth. An opportunity like this will never come again!
Our midlife crisis can also be a time of great spiritual deepening as well.
In order to grow and deepen, we must take the time to feel and be present to ourselves. It is often hard to do this alone, so please seek the help you need.
If your spouse is in midlife crisis, please support them during this fascinating and difficult time. The more you understand what is happening, the more you can share with each other, keep your sense of humor and get through the rough spots.
Remember, it will pass and you will be better for it!