Couples Communication

Continuing the Journey – Couples Communication Counseling

Jim and Janice

Have fun, love one another and know that I am here for you. I love you both. And, should you have difficulty in the future, please feel free to call me. As you know, I don’t take sides. It’s not about winning or losing, but understanding what the needs are and how to get them met while honoring you both and encouraging you to continue to grow on your journey of love.  I’m here, if you need help, call.

Couples Communication Work $60/hr. Most sessions 3 hours $160. Come prepared to grow!

Way too often couples hesitate to get the help they need on their marital journey. Maybe they figure they “should” be able to do it on their own (if you could have, you would have) or they fear judgment (they are already judging themselves) or they just find it easier to blame their partner (escape) than do their own inner work.

I once asked an older woman who had been married for over 50 years what their secret was to a long, healthy marriage. She said, “Love softens the edges.”

It is so simple and so true.  And so is this; our fears create the edges that love, in time, will soften. But sometimes we need help.

Throw in a new perspective, compassion, skilled non-judgmental listening, and a new set of tools for self awareness, taking care of yourself and communicating with your partner and your relationship may feel a thousand pounds lighter.

Most often, it is the dysfunctional dynamic of our communication (due to fear, pain and our differing natures), not issues, which are the cause of conflict in a marriage. The issue is just the focus of that. When each person in a relationship feels loved and respected, it’s ok to have different needs or opinions. And, it’s easier to find a middle ground if needed.

Marital conflict is an opportunity to be present to our fears and the needs which lay beneath our fear and anger.

It is an opportunity to learn new tools to care for ourselves and develop respect for ourselves, each other and our differing needs.

It is an opportunity to move beyond rejection, resentment and festering (probably very old) pain and develop greater understanding, love and intimacy both for ourselves, each other and the world.